Are you aching for authentically deep, soul level intimacy and connection with another? Do you desire to create a stronger bond, gain clarity, increase healthy communication, and create more fun and fantasy within your existing relationship? Are you single and seeking tools of enlightenment to attract the love and romance you crave? I would love to be of service and help guide you in one of the most profound and beautiful journeys of being human: the journey to love and be loved. To connect with others not just on a physical level, but on a heart and soul level as well. Intercourse is the easy part. Intimacy is much more precious and takes more time to cultivate. It requires a deeper level of commitment to ourselves and our loved ones to be the best and most loving versions of ourselves possible. Are you ready to up-level your love life?
The reason that so many women, as little girls, loved unicorns, pegasus, and the whole prince on a white horse fantasy is that unconsciously our soul seeks to come home to our True Self and become one with God again. We want to feel saved and filled up by the unconditional love of that source. This is also symbolic of the divine sexual union that we crave as women. We seek to be filled up with that same unconditional love from a man, our rescuer. One of the reasons we so desperately seek this outside of us is that most have yet to find it within themselves first. Once we do, this is when we draw the divine lover to us. The one that is also filled up with this divine unconditional love. The one that rescues us by simply loving us, loving all parts of us, light and dark.
The knight on the white horse in all those fairy tales is essentially a symbol of the Christ love that we are all seeking on a subconscious level. The unconditional love of God. A love that is beautiful, pure, divine, and fills our souls with joy. That is the feeling of being saved. We were conditioned to believe that that love is only outside of us, in the same way that we have been taught to believe that Christ is outside of us. Yes, there is Christ, the ascended master soul, but the ‘I am’ presence of God that was within him is within all of us. We ourselves generate that massive love in our hearts by staying heart centered, letting go of fear and judgement, and seeing the Christ in everyone.
Tantra
During a time when our society is repeatedly swinging back and forth between the extremes of the oppressing patriarchy and the cold alienation of radical feminism, the practice of Tantra is more important than ever to restore balance and unite the divine masculine and divine feminine. Patriarchal religions make our sexuality out to be something ugly and shameful. They oppress women into feeling ashamed for having desires and enjoying sex as much as men. Radical feminism set the stage for women to start having sex like men: detached, aggressive, promiscuous, controlling, too focused on the orgasm, yet unable to surrender, relax, and receive. Radical feminism is just as unhealthy as suppressive patriarchal ideology as it is driven by an extreme hatred and fear of men. Tantra is a matriarchal spiritual path that seeks to honor both the masculine ( Shiva), and the feminine (Shakti) energy that resides within every one of us. Tantra is not just a tool for better sex. It is the path to connecting to our heart and soul, awakening to our higher selves, and evolving humanity out of a state of perpetual war, hate, division, and fear. It is a path of illumination and evolution into a world of love, peace, unity consciousness, and fulfillment. Teaching little girls that men are not necessary or talking bad about them and demonizing all men for the actions of some is no different than the generations of misogynistic men that taught their sons that women were subservient and had no value in the world. Let’s do and be better humans than previous generations that didn’t know any better.
-There is an emptiness in our world. That emptiness stems from a lack of deep, authentic, emotional intimacy, heart-centered love, and connection.
One of the biggest complaints I hear from people in relationships, both men and women, is that their partner doesn't listen to them. That always speaks volumes about the health of that relationship. It shows that one or both people are not connecting on an intimate level. People get so caught up on the idea that intimacy is always about a profound deep spiritual connection with someone, and that definitely is one aspect of it. However, intimacy can also be the simple, little things in a relationship. It's knowing why your partner always walks sideways down a flight of stairs, or only drinks room temperature water. Intimacy can be as simple as knowing that they prefer their coffee black, that they have to sleep with some kind of white noise because they had night terrors as a child, their favorite books and movies and their significance to them, etc. Intimacy is knowing the little things, and the ability to know those little things only comes from using your gift of actually listening to your partner. The level of attention we give to our partner is directly related to how much we actually care for them.
Communication is Key
What is your Love Language? Learn the skills necessary to traverse your own mind maze as well as that of your partner, how to relate on an intellectual level, as well as a spiritual and physical level. If you are single and looking for love, let me teach you the tools of healthy relating, courting, and being courted.
The greatest gift we can give another human being is our attention, time and energy. In a world where people are so distracted by everything, the ability to truly listen to another person, and understand them on a deeper level, is priceless! It is the foundation that all other layers of intimacy are built upon.
Play
Trust
Connect
Whether you are in a new relationship, or you have been with your partner for years, having both shared and common interests is a must! Playfulness reveals the silly, awkward and spontaneous sides of ourselves that allows us to reach a deeper level of comfort in the relationship. Intimacy is a dance, both in the bedroom and outside of it. In the early stages of a relationship, couples often move the physical aspect of their relationship along faster than the emotional. A lack of emotional intimacy most often leads to awkward physical intimacy. Taking the time to get to know a new partner can save you a lifetime of heartache from choosing the wrong person, and it allows you to have a more comfortable, and profoundly connected union with the right one.
There is so much that new couples can do together before ever having intercourse. Take a salsa dance class together, plan a picnic or nature hike, meditate and breathe together, go to theater events, sporting events, poetry readings, comedy clubs, art galleries, church, prayer group, long walks on the beach, dinner dates, and movie dates at an actual theater instead of Netflix and chill. Have countless hours of conversation, and make sure your values are in alignment with one another. Create your own unique adventures together. Let the tension build. Enjoy the journey of love instead of focusing on the destination.
True intimacy happens when two people are brave enough to sit together in their collective darkness, formally introduce each other to all their monsters and demons, and work together to slay them. That’s intimacy. That’s a relationship and authentic communication. That’s reality.
-The Sacred Union between the divine masculine and divine feminine that are connected at the heart is like an open invitation to God to bless them with love, creativity, and abundance. This is one of the many advantages of a Sacred Union.
-Casual sex with people we don’t have a heart connection with only makes us subconsciously long even more for that deeper connection. The lack of it becomes glaringly obvious from lover to lover, and we actually lose parts of our selves in these unhealthy relationships.
-Sex is one of the most common void fillers that never actually fills any voids at all and only seems to make them deeper. This is because our sexuality is part of our divinity, a source of creative energy that many have gotten used to squandering in excess, which is why many people lack creative focus and energy.
